Depression is a medical condition that affects both children and adults. It tends to negatively affect the emotions by making a person sad and also causes loss of interest in activities, be it going out with a friend, music, work, love and so on. It decreases one’s ability to function. The things you once enjoyed are not giving you that fulfillment anymore.
Some signs to watch out for…
- Drinking more than usual
- Lack of sleep and also oversleeping
- Recent loss or weight gain
- Always complaining of tiredness
- Always moody: fluctuating from being happy to being sad frequently
- Seclusion and loss of interest in activities, friends, family and so on.
Approaching someone to talk about depression.
You may be asking yourself, “How do I go about all this? What if it’s just a phase which will pass soon? I don’t want to end up making a big fuss about what might not be there”. Sometimes you get worried about how they will react, the best time to make the approach and also, you tend to ask yourself the question “am I the best person to do this?”
You can start by just being there for the person, sitting quietly and being a good listener. You may not solve the problem in that instance but you have to be patient and give it time. Remember to be supportive and show how much care. Be positive around them and be empathetic.
Some phrases not to use around them
- You are acting like a baby
- Snap out of it already
- Are you still like that?
- Don’t kill yourself over nothing
- Be a man
What you can do to help
- Encourage them to get moving by offering to go on a walk with them
- Encourage to open up and talk about their feelings
- Invite another friend to join you (with their consent of course)
- You can help them around the house (do the dishes…)
- Encourage them to seek professional help
Do not be afraid because we all need help once in a while. So, we should be there for our friends in both good and bad times, helping them in any small way we can.